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Relationship post-mortem: soul-searching questions to ask yourself after a breakup

Breakups usually hurt and thinking about them can feel a lot like picking at a wound that is yet to heal. However, it is imperative to always meditate on the relationship and breakup so as to glean lessons.

At first, you may assume that it was all your ex’s fault but if you closely look at it, you may discover otherwise. So, what questions should you ask yourself at the end of a relationship?

1. What was his biggest ‘beef’ with me?

There is definitely something or some things that your partner used to complain about the most. Perhaps, when he was complaining then you felt he was just being difficult but now that you are no longer together, it is time to closely examine that issue and try to join the dots on how it may have contributed to the breakup.

2. What strengths led to the breakup?

Asking yourself which of your flaws caused the breakup is an obvious one. On the other hand, thinking about your strengths that may have sent a wrong message about you is definitely important. For example, are you very independent? This is a good thing but in a relationship, if it is not checked it can hamper teamwork and that would be very frustrating for someone that loves you.

3. Did third parties contribute to the breakup?

The fact that the relationship is over does not mean you should not go over the roles that external influence(s) may have played in your relationship. If you have parents that stood against the relationship or friends you always ran to with your relationship problems etc. cast your mind on how those influences affected the relationship.

4. Has this breakup made me better?

Ultimately, the point of this exercise is to take stock and find ways of improving yourself. Thus, consider what you learn.

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