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How to stop someone you love from intentionally hurting you

When two people are in love, the assumption is that they would not intentionally hurt each other. Yet, there are cases in which it happens.

Yes, it is petty and immature but then it could also be from a place of hurt. If you have discovered over time that your partner has a habit of hurting you –in words or deed- it is time to put an end to that but how?

1. Re-evaluate

Before you take any definite action, you need to look at the big picture and consider if the person is even hurting you intentionally. Deciding on this determines your course of action. You can do this by assessing the situation as objectively as possible. Also, trust your instincts.

2. Decide on a line of action

Do a cause and effect analysis of some sort. Project what your reaction to the hurt may set in motion. How do you think your partner will respond and will you be okay with that kind of reaction? Doing this ensures that you have an outline that helps you express all your emotions and that you for the fallout that may occur.

3. Consider that you do the same

Remember that I said earlier that sometimes people intentionally hurt you because they are hurt? If you have said really hurt things in the past or have been negligent, your partner may want to deal you the same hand. This is not right but if you identify your contribution to his behaviour, it makes it easier to sort it out.

4. Keep your cool

You are not out to prove a point or be defensive. Gently lay out your facts and feelings, then, leave the ball in his court. 

5. Apologize

If you identified the roles you have played, then don’t be too egotistical to apologize. 

6. Work it out together

Arrive at a solution and boundaries together. If you meet each other halfway on this, you can stop the hurt from recurring. 

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