How to break an obsessive relationship

It is not enough to identify if you are in an obsessive relationship, you need to get out of it fast but it can be very difficult, just like letting go of an addiction. So how do you go about it? 

1. Recognize it for what it is

You need to accept the fact that you are obsessed, not in love and also accept that it is bad for you. 

2. Talk to your partner about it 

If you are the first to make the discovery, then you need to get your partner on-board. It is easier if he recognizes it too. But if not, then you may have to take the rest of the steps alone.

3. Break up 

This is the really hardest part. Even if you two are truly in love, you can't be together in the midst of that toxicity. You must break up first and step away from each other. 

4. See a therapist 

There is no need to mince words. You need help. It does not mean you are crazy. You just need help. Please, take this seriously and abide diligently by your sessions.

5. Re-evaluate your core values 

Leaving an obsessive relationship would feel like a major part of your life was cut out so it is normal to feel a sense of loss and lack of direction. This is why you should ask yourself questions that will point you in the direction of your values - principles that you hold dear, help you discover who you are and what direction your life ought to take. I have written extensively on this before and if you need help, there are other resources online. 

6. Throw yourself into something 

You need time to heal but sitting around might only make you spiral into a depression so be up and doing with work, volunteering or a new, engaging hobby that will occupy your mind. 

You'll be fine.