LadyNaija just said:

Difference between love and attachment

It can be so easy to miss these signs; the gradual shift from attraction to attachment escaping the love route. Getting attached to someone develops with time and we become so quick to label it as “falling in love”. The word attachment is similar to “neediness”; this goes to show it can be quite self-centered.

When a relationship is based on attachment, it becomes a one-sided affair, with your needs always coming first. When you are genuinely in love with someone, you tend to put their needs before yours. In attachment, if you are honest with yourself, you will find out that everything you do for the other person has a benefit for you, sometimes hidden or not.

Attachment works just like a drug and when it is available, we are happy. If it isn’t, we break down. When you are in love, the presence of the other party is not necessary for you to feel safe; but the reverse is the case for attachment. Attachment is possessive in a toxic, unhealthy way with the idea that without that person, you are always incomplete and cannot live.

While attachment does not recognize the existence of flaws, real love makes a decision to see these flaws and accept them. 

At the end of the day, attachment is easy because it gives the illusion of love; there is nothing to fight for. On the other hand, love is hard. With it comes compromises and sacrifices that will not be pleasant always. With love, sometimes you let go if letting go is what is needed to be done, even though it hurts deeply. Unlike attachment, love is accepting that what will be will eventually be.

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Suammac Mar 19

cool writing.

TUNE0852 Mar 19

I love the write up,keep it up

Queenimax Mar 19

So true but the "what will be will be" ain't entirely true...The world will only give you what you demand for and not what you want...

wite4show Feb 03

Reality....Tu much hope ke?Anyway u said grl nt wife.Gbam!

Ammy2 Feb 02

Well understood

bade84 Jan 16

you right love is unconditional.

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WORDS OF HOPE TO A FADED HEART!!

DavidProspero Jan 15

You're right

JerryT99 Jan 15

That great! most people often mixed the two.Helpful to humanity

zola7021 Jan 14

this is true with conditional love!!

manuuS Jan 14

Exactly

tonaldo Jan 14

100% truth

Lucy1855 Jan 14

True

LucyLucius Jan 14

well said and put

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I See

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